Be. U. TY Podcast is Here! The podcast that will help you unveil your authentic self so you can show the world who you are confidently. In today’s episode, our host Adozie Duffy talks about the concept of what do you want. What is it that is actually truly important to you and how can you find a way to generate more of it in your life. How will you know if you’re on the right path?
What do you want to be and how do those things make you as a person?
“ What is your truth of life? Is it anywhere near the life that you have now?”
“ How much are you going to care about everybody else’s opinion, when it’s just you and you on the way out of this planet.”
“ How much longer are you going to ask yourself, what other people think of you. Before you ask what you even think of yourself.”
“ You have to give yourself the clarity and just give yourself the opportunity to pick on your own behalf and what do you want to do with your life.”
What to watch for:
0:18 – What do you want?
3:05 – How often are you living and walking in your truth?
5:07 – How much time are you going to let pass by. Before you get started.
5:53 – Think about yourself.
6:37 – The exercise (Listen to yourself)
8:16 – The questions
10:17 – Find out who you are and what you most want.
Connect with Adozie
What do you want?
No really, what do you want? When was the last time you asked yourself this & really paused & listened for your answer? & even when I ask you this question, notice how your brain automatically wants to included other people.
Not, what do you want that most benefits the people around you. Not, what do you want that you can get away with without infringing on other people. Not what do you want that won’t make other people feel bad. Not what do you want that isn’t asking too much. Not, what do you want that is acceptable to want by the standards of the other people in your life. Not, what do you want that is within reason.
But I’m asking you. You girlie. What do you want? What do you want in life? What do you want out of your time here on earth? What is your heart pulling toward that your mind keeps telling you you shouldn’t have, or that is out of the question? What do you want? What do you want to do? Who do you want to be? Not who do other people want you to be & how closely can you come to resembling that version of you they are looking for. But what is actually truly, deeply important to you & how can you find a way to generate more of that in your life?
How will you know if you are on the right path if you’re never checking in with yourself to find out what you even care about. Have you even looked at the things you currently have in your life & decided you like them & want to keep them? If you were given the opportunity between what you are doing now & something entirely different, would you pick your life again on purpose? Or is it just happening to you without your active input & opionion*.
What do you want in your life? Who do you want in your life? What do you want your days to look like? What is your ideal scenario for a good life? What is your truth of a good life? Is it anywhere near the life that you have now? Are you atleast moving in a general direction towards those things that are coming to mind? Or is it just something you tell yourself you will get to eventually?
What do you want to do, that you are telling yourself is impossible? What do you wanna see that you are telling yourself later?
What do you actually care about? What are the things in your life that make you excited & make you want more? How much of your life is made up of those things? 50 %? 30%? 10? 0?
How often are you living & walking in your truth. How often are you wearing the clothes that you like? Going to events that you picked? Trying the activites that interest you? & how often are you just doing what you’re supposed to? Doing what you should? Being how others want you to be? How comfortable are you in life? & how close are you to living your dreams? There is a direct correlation to the two, & if your incredibly comfortable, then I’m going to go ahead & make the assumption that your dreams aren’t within reach.
& I’m not just talking about money, or career, or possessions. I’m talking about the weird things you google & peoples lives that you keep up with that you’re telling yourself is only for them & not for you. I’m talking about the destinations you admire from afar & the hobbies you tell yourself you’ll get to. I’m talking about that business you keep thinking you’ll start one day & that song you secretly think about writing. I’m talking about the things that keep coming up for you & the ideas that bounce around your mind that you keep pretending aren’t there, or aren’t for you. Or that are dumb, or silly, or too time consuming, or impossible or too hard.
What are you going to do when you’re time is up & all you’ve done is exactly what everybody thought you would do? No matter how amazing or successful or impressive that is. How much are you going to care about everybody else’s opinion when it’s just you & you on the way out of this planet. How much are you going to spend your time thinking about what other people thought of you?
What are the things no one knows about you, that you are too afraid to say outloud? What are the things you dreamt about as a kid that made you excited to go to bed & close your eyes? When are you going to make time to do those things? When are you going to get around to it? How much time are you going to let passby before you get started?
How many more excuses can you come up with? What do you want? What do you crave? What are your deepest desires that you are telling yourself are just frivoulous & unnessecary? Those are the things that make you who you are. That lifht you up & make you feel connected to life. & those are the first things you are quick to turn your back on. Because it’s scary- I know – I get that. But how much of you are you going to dim in order to fit in, in order to conform, in order to be well liked, & well received? How much longer are you going to ask yourself what other people think of you before you ask what you even think of yourself? How much longer are you going to put the wants & needs of others ahead of yourself? When is it going to be your turn? When will you give yourself the floor to live your life the way you see fit? How much longer are you going to deffer your dreams & at what cost?
When is the last time you truly sat with yourself & listened to yourself? Listened to what was important to you full stop. With no one else in mind besides you & your best interest? Do you even know what you want? I think it’s definitely time to figure it out for yourself. Because if you don’t someone else is always going to find a way to highjack your life with their desires.
I want you to take second and ask yourself the following questions: If it didn’t matter what anybody else thought of me, what would I choose to do with my life this year?
If there was nothing standing in my way, what would I go after?
What do I want to do with my time left on this planet?
If money & time were completely irrelevant, what would I be doing with your life?
What dreams have you given up on?
What are you pushing away that keeps gnawing at you?
What dreams have you let take the back seat.
Who do you want to be?
If you had the choice, what would you do?