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Hey Girlie!

I’m Adozie Duffy. I’m a USC Marshall School of Business Graduate, a Burlesque Dancer, and a Dating & Relationship Coach.

I help high-achieving, independent, millennial WOC attract high-quality men so that they can have the true intimacy and partnership they desire .

Look, I used to be where you are. Swiping on the apps, going to random bars, asking friends if they knew anyone. Half the time I was dating sporadically & unenthusiastically the other half of the time I was dating obsessively if I thought someone had “potential.”‘

There was no middle ground.

Nothing about the process was enjoyable to me, because the stakes always felt so high.
 I felt like I was always trying to prove that I was the right girl for whatever man was in front of me.

Listen Linda, I consider myself to be a fucking catch AND a feminist, yet I couldn’t shake these desperate and anxious feelings that came up whenever I was dating.

The whole thing felt bad, so I avoided it until I got gusts of random inspiration because “it had worked for a friend” & then I would stop abruptly after I encountered one too many douchebags.

But here’s the thing, if I was being honest with myself, I really wanted a relationship.

 I wanted to find my soulmate. I wanted someone to travel the world with, build a life with, and have a deep, delicious connection with. I couldn’t figure out why that was so hard to find! I mean I exist don’t I? Where the fucks my match? And if THIS is what I had to deal with to find him, was it even worth it? 

But I have to tell you something Girlie, I was going about finding my equal ALL WRONG.& I had no idea. 

Because nobody teaches us this stuff. Nobody teaches us how to properly navigate complicated relationships, how to understand and process the inevitable emotional ups and downs that come with putting yourself out there or how to ACTUALLY be yourself when you feel like so much is on the line.

 It wasn’t until I learned how to kick the bad, unconscious dating cycle I was in & become more emotionally resilient, that I started to meet & go on dates with men who ACTUALLY HAD THEIR SHIT TOGETHER.

Seriously, only about a month after I did the deep self work to become whole on my own, I met my husband. The man I genuinely believe is the love of my life. The man I would have told you just months early “didn’t exist”.

I want to help you see that it’s not the men, the dating apps, the pandemic, that are keeping you single. It’s you. (I know don’t kill me!!) I want you to understand this is actually the best news ever. Because you know what you don’t have control over? The men, the dating apps, the pandemic. But, you know what you do have control over?
(That’s right Girlie; yourself!!!) 

What my past clients have to say:

I had been working on loving and accepting myself for a few years prior to beginning coaching. Although I believed I had made progress with these goals, I was looking for an extra push and help to get me over the finish line. I wanted to truly see myself in a positive light and in a way that others saw me. I felt very excited going into our first session together, because I was eager to start the work to better myself, and I knew I was in good hands. I had seen Adozie’s personal journey with self-love and felt inspired. But also, I was a bit nervous and felt vulnerable because I was exposing a part of myself I normally kept secret. Adozie pushed me out of my comfort zone and forced me to think about my goals on a micro level. I had to dig deep, and I realized if I was going to benefit and grow from this coaching experience, I had to be okay with feeling vulnerable and being honest with myself so I could achieve my end goals. My friends have seen such a difference in me since even the beginning of coaching. They’ve told me: “Your glow is not only from the outside, but within!” “There she GLO” “We love a confident, gorgey hun”. I can honestly say I am in love with me and who I am. I made a promise to make myself, my wants, and my needs a priority and to never settle for less than what I deserve. I can see the qualities that my family, friends, and colleagues see in me and it feels really good. I’ve also learned to change my thinking patterns, to be more gentle with myself, and to not let negative thoughts dictate my feelings or how I react in difficult and unpleasant situations. I have manifested a lot of good karma from being genuine, open, and accepting to the good, the bad, the positives, and the negatives that happen in my life. I truly enjoyed working with Adozie and I thought our coaching experience was perfect for me. I witnessed so much growth within three months and I am very thankful for this experience. It has made me very excited for the future, my continuous growth and learning, and the future opportunities I will manifest. 10/10 would recommend!

Saroya Sandiford

When we first connected I was in a phase of my life where I was ready for a transition. I was not happy in my current job, my long-time relationship had just come to an end, and I was having a hard time dealing with the impact of the pandemic on my daily routine. I wanted to have a job that I looked forward to, I wanted to be surrounded by people who brought joy to my life, and I wanted to be in a physical space that made me feel more at peace. I knew very little about life coaching when I considered the opportunity, but I was in a space where I was open to trying anything that would help me improve my life. I started life coaching a couple months before my lease was up, which put a fixed timeline on how long I had to begin making significant life changes. That shrinking timeline was really the trigger for me. I was already thinking about moving & finding a new job, but I hadn’t taken the actions I needed to make these desires a reality. I also felt a sense of commitment to my current life, and I was fearful of making changes that could potentially lead to failure. I had not worked with a life coach before. I think that was to my advantage because I was open to everything I learned from my experience, and I was pleasantly surprised at how easy it was to incorporate a life coach into my life with all the things I had going on.I was a bit nervous going into the first coaching session because I was insecure about where I was in my life at the moment, and it was tough facing some of those insecurities. I also didn’t know what to expect, or if this was the best opportunity for me at that time.In the first session I was able to think through and document the goals that were most important to me at that time. This was the first time I had done this exercise since realizing that I needed to make changes in my life. I had attempted to do this on my own, but it always felt too overwhelming, and I never knew where to start. Having support and guidance made it so much easier to visualize my goals. Since I began coaching I have definitely gotten feedback from friends about changes they’ve seen in me. I have close girlfriends who have referred to me as more open and forgiving of things that I previously might have had an immediate negative response to. I get comments about my confidence improving. I also get complimented on how proactive I was in making decisions to improve my life in a short period of time with Adozie’s guidance & support.The biggest change I’ve seen in myself is definitely my confidence. I am less likely to doubt myself, my decisions, and my abilities. I am more open to being myself in all spaces of my life. I am more open to meeting new people and creating new experiences. I have been more nurturing of the important relationships in myself, as well as more nurturing to myself. I have a more positive outlook, and I am excited about my life in a way that I hadn’t been in a long time.I would 1000% recommend making Adozie your life coach! She is so kind, thoughtful, and incredibly knowledgeable.

Malaine Thorpe

At the beginning of our time together I had a terrible job, I had no ambitions or goals and just was not in the best shape. I wanted to organize every aspect of my life so I could figure out what I wanted to do with my life. I had always been skeptical about life coaching but the second I found out that Adozie was a life coach, I jumped at the offer. Adozie has been a prominent positive role model in my life and for her to help me with my life meant that I knew I would be in safe hands. When I first started, I was nervous, excited and a bit scared. I never thought I could stop procrastinating and be productive. Luckily for me, things worked out way better than I expected. One of the biggest shifts I experienced was in setting goals. Goal setting is one of the most important task for achieving anything. After I set my goals, I felt good and accountable (which is funny since it’s usually others making me feel that way.) Throughout the coaching, I learned how to stay consistent with the goals and that is something I truly never could do before. One of the biggest changes I see in myself is that I have become fearless. I have also learned how to reject my thoughts if they don’t align with reality or could negatively affect my emotions. This has helped me to see the world with a new lens and I am still learning about the world.

Mayank Vaid